Loved ones who shun caring for relatives with dementia aren’t selfish, it sounds harsh but it needs saying!
Caring for someone with dementia is draining, or visiting a loved one who doesn’t know your name is deeply saddening.
It’s easy to point the finger of blame at relatives for neglecting their duties, but my experience in running Quality Home Care (N E Lincs) has taught me that things aren’t that simple.
Caring for a relative can sap the strongest will. People with dementia can be challenging, aggressive and irritating.
I remember my mother who had dementia taking wet washing straight out of the washing machine and clutching it to her body and refusing to let go of it!
When talking to my teenage daughter my mother would say and do things that broke my daughters heart. Few people in care refuse to discuss this aspect of dementia for fear of being branded cold or heartless.
Recently the sportsman and T.V. personality Ian Botham said he was too upset to visit his dad in the last few months of his life because of his dad’s dementia, scorn was poured on Botham’s shoulders. But don’t be so quick to judge unless you have experienced it for yourself.
Sometimes we all need help in looking after loved ones and Quality Home Care can help you.
Quality Home Care has compassionate and professional carer’s who are highly trained and experienced and can help you care for your loved one.
If you would like to have a friendly chat about caring for a relatives with dementia then phone Quality Home Care on 01472 241198.
Michael Hughes
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